A Nigerian feminist has bluntly told women to get a “side man” if their marriages leave them feeling neglected.
In a viral TikTok video, the woman argued that many husbands stop paying attention after years of marriage.
“The man does not even give you attention… they don’t even notice you,” she said, noting that some women go five, ten years without their partners caring about the little things.
She suggested that having a side man could help women feel valued again and even protect their mental health.
“A side man will keep you sane. A side man will help you save your sanity,” she said.
The feminist added that women often rely too much on prayers instead of finding practical ways to meet their emotional needs.
“All these ones that you are going from one prayer house to another… go and get a side man,” she said.
She also advised discretion, warning that the side man does not need to know the woman is married to avoid complications.
